As people we are creatures of habit. We mark our lives by events that have happened to us. We hear a song and it takes us to a place, a person, an event usually in our past. Generally to our youth. We smell or see certain foods and we remember good times spent with those we love. Sometimes we even see material things that take us to a place we feel good, safe, happy and all those other feelings you have with memories.
This time of year is ripe with memories. We think of our youth with friends and family and times spent, foods eaten, places visited and so on. Special events are given more prominence in our memories and we usually pause at that shrine ( at least symbolically) as that event nears its prominence in our memory. We generally call these events anniversaries. Sometimes we can remember these events right down to the last detail and recall them with fondness. We also remember anniversaries with pictures, video etc. It's those feelings in the heart that picture cannot capture that is most important. I remember when my oldest brother was getting married. I never knew him that well when we were growing up. Yes we were in the same house and went to the same schools and church etc. We were just different back then and I suppose never really connected. We have connected many years later in life and so that is the positive sidebar to that story. When he was getting married it was my parents 25th wedding anniversary in the same month. So his brides parents had a surprise party for them in the guise of getting together to finalize wedding preparations. Great memory . We received a picture in the mail the other day from a cousin. The picture was taken prior to us leaving Calgary. The girls were so young and my mother in law was in the picture. That's an anniversary that we remember well. We did not know at that time the change we were going to go through just afew months later with our move to Phoenix. We all have different anniversaries that we remember. Some are happy and joyful while others are painful and time only takes the sting away but the memory sometimes can take your breath away like you are right in the midst of the event. My girls were young when my mom died. Our oldest 2 girls remember her and some of the things she impacted their lives with. She loved music and reading. She had a great voice-- no an amazing voice. She loved to read and would read with and to the girls when she was with us. Our youngest daughter learns about her when I tell them about her and we see family pictures . She loved Christmas and always wanted the family to have a good time together. The sting of losing her sometimes is so fresh it's palpable. The anniversaries of life achievements are awesome and help move us on in life. This week I marked another anniversary. It has been 2 years since I was involved in my car accident. These past 2 years were interesting now that I look back. I realized more than ever that I have an amazing husband. He stepped up and went way beyond what others would and have done. He stayed with me at home for 3 months and made sure I recovered, my basic needs and more were met,he looked after our Christmas festivities and any other thing that came in our focus. He sacrificed so much and never halted in any way shape or form. He cooked he cleaned, did the laundry, shopped, looked after the dogs,went with me to all of my medical appointments and so much more. So even though this is a anniversary I wish I did not have it solidified a truth that I always knew--I have a great guy, a great partner, and great dad for our girls and a solid man. 28 and counting Dan, Thanks and I love you.
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